One reason I'm blogging at this god forsaken time is because rag dance prac ended not too long ago. Another reason is because I'm genuinely concerned for my friend. One I regard as a good friend who talked to me not too long ago. Maybe abt 8 hours ago? I'm already damn tired and yea gonna collapse anytime now but I have to do this.
I am worried. The similarities are scary. Honestly, my opinions and advice don't matter much but I've just gotta say it. If you aren't ready, you aren't. Would a true 1 - 2 year break help things? Maybe. But we'll never know. Yes, it's true that you'll never know until you give things a shot.
The exact same things are happening just like the previous time. When everything seems rosy, the same negative thought pops up and makes you reconsider things once again, whether the relationship should carry on or not. I'm seriously not encouraging a break but when the same thing pops up one too many times, I won't classify it as a one-off or just a coincidence. Something must be done. Of course it has to be talked out for certain. A change of mentality must follow if things are to continue for long. A sufficient sense of security and assurance must be given from the guy. It has to. Emotional strain is part and parcel of a relationship and it all comes in a package. We all have to learn to accept it but I know. Past wounds can still sting. I, of all people should be aware of that.
I also think that it's not about not disappointing the other party but whether it's the best decision for yourself. Benefiting yourself now would not prolong further suffering. Relationships are meant to be selfish. If it doesn't happen, the one who gets hurt in the end might just be yourself. I won't act like I'm a wise owl on this but it's just what I feel and I've learnt. At the end of the relationship there isn't any hard feelings at all. That's what I believe in. And that's exactly what I'm doing right now.
At the end of the day, I'm not for or against going either way. I'm just for a decision that would ultimately give you happiness and that's best for you. Nothing more, nothing less. Even I'm surprised at my own maturity, which has never really occurred to me before. I hope this would be read sometime soon. Took me a while to sort out my thoughts and all yepz.
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